George Frederick Watts
Why are people protesting in Venezuela? This is one of the MANY reasons
When [an abusive man] tells me that he became abusive because he lost control of himself, I ask him why he didn’t do something even worse. For example, I might say, “You called her a fucking whore, you grabbed the phone out of her hand and whipped it across the room, and then you gave her a shove and she fell down. There she was at your feet where it would have been easy to kick her in the head. Now, you have just finished telling me that you were ‘totally out of control’ at that time, but you didn’t kick her. What stopped you?” And the client can always give me a reason. Here are some common explanations:
"I wouldn’t want to cause her a serious injury."
“I realized one of the children was watching.”
“I was afraid someone would call the police.”
“I could kill her if I did that.”
“The fight was getting loud, and I was afraid the neighbors would hear.”
And the most frequent response of all:
"Jesus, I wouldn’t do that. I would never do something like that to her.”
The response that I almost never heard — I remember hearing it twice in the fifteen years — was: “I don’t know.”
These ready answers strip the cover off of my clients’ loss of control excuse. While a man is on an abusive rampage, verbally or physically, his mind maintains awareness of a number of questions: “Am I doing something that other people could find out about, so it could make me look bad? Am I doing anything that could get me in legal trouble? Could I get hurt myself? Am I doing anything that I myself consider too cruel, gross, or violent?”
A critical insight seeped into me from working with my first few dozen clients: An abuser almost never does anything that he himself considers morally unacceptable. He may hide what he does because he thinks other people would disagree with it, but he feels justified inside. I can’t remember a client ever having said to me: “There’s no way I can defend what I did. It was just totally wrong.” He invariably has a reason that he considers good enough. In short, an abuser’s core problem is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong.
I sometimes ask my clients the following question: “How many of you have ever felt angry enough at youer mother to get the urge to call her a bitch?” Typically half or more of the group members raise their hands. Then I ask, “How many of you have ever acted on that urge?” All the hands fly down, and the men cast appalled gazes on me, as if I had just asked whether they sell drugs outside elementary schools. So then I ask, “Well, why haven’t you?” The same answer shoots out from the men each time I do this exercise: “But you can’t treat your mother like that, no matter how angry you are! You just don’t do that!”
The unspoken remainder of this statement, which we can fill in for my clients, is: “But you can treat your wife or girlfriend like that, as long as you have a good enough reason. That’s different.” In other words, the abuser’s problem lies above all in his belief that controlling or abusing his female partner is justifiable…."
2014/02/24 La Isabelica, Valencia, Edo. Carabobo - Venezuela
America. The answer to the last one is America.
An X-class solar flare erupted on the left side of the sun on the evening of Feb. 24, 2014. This composite image shows the sun in ultraviolet light with wavelength of both 131 and 171 Angstroms.
The Tail of Two Lonely Elephants: One Finally Gets a Friend While the Other is Still in Solitary Confinement
1st Gif:When Mila met Mary: Elephant who had not met another of her kind for 37 years gently entwines her trunk with new friend
- 41-year-old elephant meets another elephant for the first time in 37 years
- Animals gently entwine trucks to greet each other
- Mila relocated after keeper was accidentally crushed to death
A 41-year-old elephant has been introduced to its another of its kind for the first time in over three decades.
Mila met Mary, the leader of the herd at San Diego Zoo, after being kept as a lone elephant in a circus for over 30 years and then taken in by Franklin Zoo in New Zealand.
Video footage of the heart-warming meeting shows the African elephants entwining their trunks through a wire fence.It is common for elephants to communicate by touching and entwining their trunks, according to African Elephant expert Tim Fullman’s website. He writes that trunks ‘play an important role in smell and that rubbing trunks in greeting may be partially to smell each other to gain information.’
Mila’s former keeper Helen Schofield, who was crushed to death by Mila in an accident in 2012, had always hoped the elephant would one day be returned to a herd of its own kind.
The tragic incident sparked a fundraising effort by supporters of the zoo, who hoped to raise enough money for Mila to be relocated to a zoo with that had other African elephants.
The supporters raised $1.5 million, enough for Mila to be moved from New Zealand to San Diego Zoo.San Diego Zoo’s African elephant herd includes six African and Indian elephants ranging in age from 33 to 49 years old.
Lead keeper at the zoo Ron Ringer says that so far, Mila and Mary are really hitting it off.
'Mary walked up to Mila and they both started eating from the same tree,' Mr Ringer said. 'This is a great behavior to see because they were both calm and accepting of each other and it’s one of the types of things we look for with animal introductions.'
Zoo keepers felt the best way to introduce Mila to the herd was to start with a one-on-one with the matriach.
'In late January, we gave Mila the first opportunity to meet another elephant with limited interaction. We decided that Mary was the best option, given she is a dominant elephant in the herd, is relatively calm, and has a good track record with meeting newcomers.'
'Being excited, nervous, scared, aggressive, or submissive were all possibilities we could have expected to observe,' zookeeper Robbie Clark said.
'Mary was curious of the newbie while Mila was surprised to find something as big as her on the other side of the wall!'
2nd Gif: The lonely elephant moved from zoo to zoo that just wants a friend: Campaigners desperate to find a herd for orphaned Tania who has spent most of her 39 years alone
Campaigners are desperate to find a herd for an orphaned Indian elephant who has spent most of her 39 years alone in zoos.
- Tania has been shunted between zoos in France, Spain, Italy and Romania
- The Indian elephant was born in the wild in 1975 but orphaned aged three
- Campaigners say her condition at Târgu Mureș Zoo is woefully inadequate
Tania was just three years old when the rest of her herd was wiped out in 1978, and she has since been moved from zoo to zoo across Europe, isolated and showing signs of distress.
After stints in France, Spain and Italy, she has been at Romania’s Târgu Mureș Zoo in the city of the same name, in what campaigners say, has been a cramped enclosure surrounded by the sounds of building work.
Almost 70,000 people signed a petition in November last year calling on zoo officials, EU member states and the mayor of Târgu Mureș to allow Tania to be released into a sanctuary.
Born into the wild, she would normally be a highly social animal and rights campaigners say she may not survive much longer after being starved of the company of her own kind for decades.
Activists say her enclosure in Romania was not ready when she arrived, and she had to be kept in a tiny cage until it was finished with the noise from the building work as a constant distraction.
Instead of being placed with other elephants after her family died, Tania was sold to the Plaisance-du-Touch zoo near Toulouse, south west France, where she remained isolated for around a quarter of a century.
In 2004 Tania was moved to the Terra Natura zoo in Benidorm, Spain, where she was temporarily placed with another female elephant,Khaiso, who also had a difficult past. The two quickly became inseparable.
But when the zoo got into financial difficulties she was again sold off, and in 2009 was taken to Le Barben zoo in France, whose herd did not accept her so she was moved in 2011 to Le Cornelle near Milan, Italy - where the same thing happened.
Finally she ended up where she is now, where campaigners say she has been for more than a year.
Indian elephants can live for up to 60 or 70 years.
Roberta Brown, one of the activists behind the campaign, said: ‘Elephants are highly sociable beings, with very strong ties to their families. Losing her family and then being isolated must’ve had a devastating effect on Tania.
'Elephants are traditionally pack animals with close family ties but Tania lives all alone in the Romanian zoo where her conditions are inappropriate to say the least.
'She is showing signs of severe stress and has a damaged foot which is in need of treatment. She is often seen swaying from side to side and also seen rubbing her head against her enclosure which are both signs of distress in elephants.
'The floor has no drainage, and Tania has to stay with her ill feet in her own urine and faeces.
'She has had a life of misery and neglect, and to give her one last chance of some happiness at the end of days and after all she has gone through.'
A reporter contacted the zoo over the allegations but the director was unavailable for comment.
adoptpets: Mila should be at a sanctuary instead of a zoo as I don’t see a purpose for elephants at zoos. And as we saw in Denmark with Marius the Giraffe animals in zoos are simply a commodity. And even when “surplus” animals aren’t killed by zoos, even “good zoos” like San Diego Zoo will sell their unwanted animals to licensed auctioneers and dealers. These individuals will then turn around and re-sell them to unlicensed third parties. You can read more about that here from Alan Green’s book “Animal Underground.”
Also, in 2003 San Diego caused a controversy by participating in a transfer of 11 orphaned elephants from Africa to San Diego zoo and another US zoo. San Diego defends its transfer by arguing that they were going to be killed but others argue that they should have stayed in Africa. More about that here.
And no doubt that Tania’s and Mila’s lonliness were because of them being placed in zoos in the first place. So, while Mila’s ending isn’t “happy” it is at least better for now and I wanted to include this gif to show just how much elephants need the company of their own species.
You can visit the Tania’s campaign Facebook page here.And contact the people who have power to release her to a sanctuary directly:Email: Executive Director: firstname.lastname@example.org
Email the European Commission.
Attention: Ion Codescu, Head of Enforcement.
To File a Complaint with the European Commission go to this link
Email your Romanian Ambassador to allow transfer:
Tania is a 37-year-old elephant suffering a life of solitary confinement at the Targu-Mures Zoo in Romania, transferred from an Italian zoo in September. Although the European Association of Zoos and Aquaria requires that zoos house female elephants in groups, Tania continues to languish without the company of other elephants. This is cruel punishment for female elephants, who are profoundly social.
Tania was captured in the wild in the 1970s, likely prematurely separated from her mother and other family members. She was then sent to a zoo in France where she appears to have lived alone for more than 20 years. Observers note that since her arrival at Targu-Mures Zoo, Tania has been forced to live indoors in a tiny barren cell standing on concrete, often in her own urine and feces. The zoo industry reportedly claims that Tania does not get along with other elephants. Zoos often use this claim to justify housing solitary elephants when, in fact, it is the unnatural conditions at zoos that deprive elephants of their most basic needs - room to move and more natural social groupings. Tania also repeatedly rocks and sways, which is a coping mechanism indicating she is in psychological distress.
Please, investigate Tania’s situation and improve her life. This is a shame for Europe to keep elephants in cells like prisoners.
(name, country)Also, check out In Defense of Animal’s 2013 List for the 10 worst zoos for elephants in North America here where there are some more lonely elephants & their previous years lists here.
My entry for 13crown’s Ghostbook!
This was an amazing project, and I got to do something really different. I hope you enjoy it :))
ok but what if like. werewolves transform under the full moon but theres just this one and by day hes a big tough guy and then when he transforms hes a tiny dog. just fucking. just…